What does having balance in your life really mean?
Well it doesn’t mean that you can have it all. Heck, what is “it all” anyways?
Maybe it means feeling joy and happiness with what you can do and how you do it. Spending your limited time on what’s important – that’s living a life of balance.
Most of us are not living a life of balance.
We are trying to cram too much into each day and ending up exhausted. When we do that on a regular basis, we often end up burned out, stressed, and (eventually) ill.
Here are some things that you can do to give yourself a reality check to see how you can move toward more balance in your life.
1. First, make a list of the areas/items that are most important to you. Things like special relationships, job, career, volunteering, religion and exercise are some of the things you might list. Now ask yourself if you spend time and energy every week on these items? If you don’t, ask yourself what obstacles keep you from allowing more time for them.
2. Now circle the items on your list that you actually spend your time doing. Are there some items that you never seem to get to? Like spending time with a spouse in order to deepen your relationship? In an ideal world, you’d have time and energy for work and play – there would be time for yourself and some left over for others. But as we know, this is not a perfect world, so you must prioritize your time.
3. Now mark through all the items that you ‘should “do, but probably won’t get around to in the near future. Remember, you don’t have to do it all now. No one expects you to be perfect. It’s not possible or healthy to try to be Superman or Superwoman.
4. Now rank the items in your list from most important to least important. Is your list too long? That’s okay. Lots of interests and connections give meaning and joy to life. Just don’t try to do too much. Too many of us feel that if we are not ‘doing something” every minute, that we are not using our time wisely. Often we just need to “be.” A friend of mine calls this “recharging his batteries,” and it is time spent wisely, because he is more productive after a time spent like this.
If your list is short, consider whether you are balanced enough – would it be wise to add some different activities to your life? I recently completed this exercise myself and found that my list was too short. I had allowed my speaking and training business to take over my life and there wasn’t much room for anything else. So I thought about some of my other interests that I had let drop and decided to do more volunteering in the community. Since then I have made room for some of that and am feeling more in balance.
We must all face the fact that we can’t do everything, no matter how much we would like to. If you are trying to do too much, are you doing it all effectively? I bet not. I’ll bet that some things are falling through the cracks or that the “wheels are starting to come off” at times.
Sometimes it is important to do less, but to do it well, to focus on quality rather than quantity. If you can’t seem to do this alone, turn to a close friend or family member or even a professional counselor to help you get your life in balance.
About Trevina Broussard
I share valuable Customer Service tips and insights for frontline managers and employees on how to deliver customer service to keep your customer coming back. The name of the game is customer loyalty and it’s not just about satisfaction. It’s about a willingness to be a repeat buyer, willingness to recommend you to others, and resistance to switching to a competitor. Fortunately I learned this lesson through my 15-year corporate career. Poor service is an all-too-frequent experience for us all. I provide a framework for implementing ongoing processes that can build customer loyalty.